On Girlbosses and the Pressure for Perfection


The term Girlboss has been quite a trendy one for some time now and with it I'd say has come even more pressure to live the kind of life "worth" documenting. I'm not saying that the rise of successful women isn't wonderful and inspirational - it absolutely is, and I am grateful to have so many role models out there - all I'm saying is we shouldn't ignore the type of stress that comes with striving for success and perfection.

When I first started blogging and getting really into Instagram I both knew and understood that what I saw from other successful people in the industry were curated versions of their lives. Yes they have a lot of beauty, success, and amazing experiences in their lives, but what they present to us is intended to be aspirational. That's part of what draws us in, keeps us liking photos and reading blogs regularly, the desire to have what we see as something worth working towards. Despite knowing all of this, I still find myself comparing myself negatively to others, and that's really unfair. No matter where you are in your life, there is always going to be someone better than you at something or someone who has got their life more together than yours - and that's okay! Comparing my blog and level of success to someone else who has been doing this for five years not only puts me at a disadvantage, it also doesn't acknowledge the work and perseverance that others have put towards their success.

Early adulthood is a weird enough time without comparing yourself to every one around you. I'm only 23, but my peers are already beginning to get married and start real careers and build their lives. It's easy to get caught up scrolling through Facebook thinking that you're somehow a step behind everyone else. But like I said before, everyone is on a different path, if you're still figuring things out, give yourself time and be patient with yourself. Work hard towards your goals and don't give up when you stumble occasionally. You don't have to be an incredibly successful girl boss today or tomorrow or even ever. Find what you find fulfilling and hold onto it.

Lastly, I just want to say, take everything on the internet with a grain of salt. You never know what's going on behind the scenes unless someone chooses to share that information. I pride myself on being as honest as I can on here, but this blog is still carefully crafted to show what I want it to. Remember that, and don't let comparison drive you crazy!